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Assalamualaikum.

This post may dedicated to all career women, a mummy of kids age 2 years and 11 months old and a wife with no maid at home.

Yes it describes me myself.

I would like to know, how these career women commit with work loads and handle their marriage life with toddler and baby, husband and house chores.

Obviously for a lady in that situation will find it is hard to stay in the office for working late. Agree??

As for me myself, balik lambat je I dah worry the kids should be hungry. The first thing that crossed my mind.

I am a lady engineer, design for PCB electronics equipments. So work loads normally came by season. Ada masa free gila, ada masa busy macam nak gila. And I believed this kind of work trends sama macam semua PCB designers out there.

Sorry, I tak tau trend keje lain macam mana. 

Does title for working late job does not meant for lady? Or ladies cannot be engineer once they got married and have kids and babies. Or all mummies must hire a maid if they still want to commit as lady engineer and working late?

Not fair! but that is the real situation. 

Different story bila the kids dah start sekolah. Then lady engineers need to wait until the kids sekolah only baru boleh nak berdedikasi???

If you attend for any interview, the 1st issue they will ask, can you working late? May i know your kids age? They also can predict if you still answer YES, but your children are only 2 years old and having baby. Or else they will ask do you have maid? What happen if you balik lambat and the kids at nursery?

What do you think the result will be?

It is not about qualification issue, even you passed the qualifying test. They just also understand that you cannot stay back to commit with work. 

So better they choose a guy instead.

Poor lady. :(

Husband? 

Kalau mak sorang pun boleh rasa nak pergi toilet pun tak sempat bila jaga anak dua, inikan pulak husband. I pernah tanya my husband, boleh tak kalau i tinggalkan Hannah and Harraz with you one whole day? White flag rise up! Surrender!

And also macam mana when your husband is working night shift. nobody can take care the children now. Sanggup nak tinggalkan anak dekat nursery sampai esok pagi? not me! 

What i can say, saya bersabar dan bertahan. Work load kat office cuba settlekan sepantas mungkin sebelum 5.30pm. If terpaksa i bring home only for weekend. 

Tapi, nak tuka keje lain tu rasanya belum cerah harapan. Of course saya tak salahkan anak-anak. Lahirnya mereka ke dunia, membawa rahmat dan rezeki yang besar kepada keluarga. Term rezeki itu luas.. Kaji sendiri dan selidik rezeki yang mereka bawa. :)

Success doesn't come to you…you go to it

There's nothing else than my kids and family.

Semalam daddy balik lambat sebab kena naik LRT dari Kerinci ke Bukit Jalil. Kalau orang tak biasa naik train macam daddy harus lah boleh pening nak kena decide train mana kena naik. 

So semalam daddy adalah agak stress bila dah sesak dan panas dan sesat dan letih. 

Mummy pulak dah macam google Rapid KL walhalnya saya pun dah bertahun tak naik LRT makanya pun dah tak ingat sangat routes Rapid KL macam mana. Minta maaf ye kurang membantu. :)

Saya juga dah kekontangan idea menu untuk dinner sekeluarga. As usual, balik dari kerja jadi askar perang siapkan dinner dulu. Last option ialah nasi goroeng seafood tanpa cili, fried chiken drumet dan telur dadar daddy. 

While daddy still at LRT station at 'somewhere':

At 7.15 saya picked up the children from nursery. Hannah masih tak larat; tengah berangan melayan perasaan mamai baru bangun tido by the time mummy sampai. Nampak je mummy terus menangis. Tak macam selalu. Biasanya bila mummy or daddy sampai, Hannah la orang paling riang gembira dalam dunia melompat-lompat terjerit-jerit macam dah 4 tahun tak jumpa. Pity her..

Acik cakap hari ni Hannah tak nak makan sangat. Susu pun langsung tak minum. Tido pun tak lena sebab batuk. Again... pity her.

Once we reached home, Hannah nak "titik" . Ok i admit she is hungry.

Bergayut lah dua beradik macam-macam aksi. Sumpah! sangat-sangat precious moments when everytime i did tandem nursing. I believed for mothers who also experienced the same will 100% agree with me.  

15-30mins after.

I ask them for dinner. 

Bubur nasi untuk adik, nasi goreng for kakak. 

Main kejar-kejar nak suap dua beranak ni. Memang rasa time ni kalau la tangan ada 10. Sorang memanjat, yang sorang lagi tak menyempat nak nasi.

Sorang makan nasi yang lagi sorang 'bluekkkk' nasi atas lantai.

"Mummy, Hannah yayak!" "Ok tak pe nanti mummy basuh ok. Kakak yayak dulu."

Bersihkan Hannah, Harraz muntah susu pulak. Habis satu badan, baju mummy dengan lantai terlambak muntah adik. Ok fine.... "Jap ye mummy bersihkan adik pulak."

Nak pakai kan pampers bergelut macam nak bertumbuk. Harraz yang lasak!

Ok anak-anak, jom sambung makan.

"Mummy, tak sedap!" Ok i understand tekak Hannah tak best. 

"Mummy buat milo nak? Kakak kena makan, nati pedih perut, sayang," "Nak!"

Bangun bancuhkan hot chocolate kurma kakak. 

"Mummy, tak sedap!" Hurmmmm!

"Ok mummy tambah susu ye." 

Again... bangun modified hot chocolate Hannah.

"mmmmm... sedap". "Ok kakak minum ye. Mummy nak suap adik makan."

Adik tak diam! panjat sana, panjat sini, Habis semua kena tarik dengan Harraz. Strugglenya nak suap anak. Rasa nak ikat sorang2 kat kerusi suruh nganga mulut!

I am not that cruel.. Rasa je.....

"Mummy, Hannah yayak!" Ermm again... "Ok jom mummy basuh."

While bersihkan Hannah, Harraz menangis sebab tak de orang sekeliling dia. Harraz punya style melalak macam kena dera dengan tali pinggang. 

"Hannah tak nak nasi, mummy masak bubur nasi kosong ye. Makan la sayang.. macam mana nak baik."

Mummy ke dapur blend beras nak masak bubur nasi kosong untuk kakak. 

Sambung suapkan Harraz. 

Ok im tired to play around, kids jom tengok tv dalam bilik. 

"Mummy nak 'titik'". Ok!

And now it is already almost 8.30pm! Luckily daddy dah balik. 

Huaaaaaa it is really hard to handle them both ALONE kalau hati tak cekal, jiwa tak kental! Memang tahap boleh menangis.

Success doesn't come to you…you go to it